Child Friendly Australia
What Causes Child Abuse?
There is no such thing as the perfect parent, nor is there only one 'right' way to raise children, and in some circumstances, every parent or carer has the potential to hurt a child at some time - but fortunately most don't.

There are many reasons as to why child abuse or neglect occurs, it may be failure to cope with stress, a lack of knowledge or the skills to care for a child.

We now know that the likelihood of physical abuse , emotional abuse and neglect is increased if a parent has not been taught parenting skills, has limited knowledge of how children develop and does not have access to the support and advice of family, friends or professionals (that is, the family is isolated from support).

We also know that child abuse and neglect must be viewed in the context of the child, family, their local community and society.  We know that child maltreatment is more likely to occur in families with other significant family problems (e.g. unemployment and poverty, substance abuse, lack of social contacts and other supports, domestic violence).    

If any of the following conditions exist, the risk of child abuse occurring increases, and a combination of a number of these conditions substantially increases the risks.

  • Isolation
    Parenting with little or no help and support makes caring for children much harder. Feelings of isolation are exacerbated by stress from work (or lack of work), health problems and relationship problems
  • Unrealistic expectations
    Some parents demand that their children behave well all of the time. Some parents don't understand their child's development. This may lead to parents asking too much or too little of their children.
  • Immaturity
    Sometimes very young or insecure parents have trouble understanding a child's behaviour and needs.
  • Drug and alcohol problems
    One of the known effects of problematic use of drugs and/or alcohol is to limit the ability to care for children properly.
  • Poor childhood experiences
    Many abusive adults were themselves badly treated when they were children
  • Lack of parenting skills
    Parenting isn't an intuitive skill. It must be learned. Some parents don't know appropriate ways to help children learn the way they want them to behave. They have no 'models' of successful families.

Child Sexual Abuse
The causes of child sexual abuse are different.  Sexual abuse is not a 'parenting problem, it is about the use of a child for sexual purposes by a person who does not  care about the child's wishes or welfare and who is willing to exploit a child's trust to gratify their own needs. 

Some have argued that sexual abuse is caused by dysfunctional family dynamics where children are used to fulfil inappropriate roles in families to enable the family to function. While this may be the case in some circumstances (and that is no excuse for the behaviour!), it is generally agreed that sexual abuse is about the abuse of power.

Patriarchal (male-dominated) societies where women and children are seen as being the property of men are more likely to have higher rates of sexual assault. Sexual abuse is therefore seen merely as one part of the range of violence perpetrated by men against women and children. Given that more evidence is being discovered that women also commit child sexual abuse, it is perhaps better to consider sexual abuse as being caused by those in a more powerful position (adults) exploiting the weaker members of society (children) for sexual purposes.

 

NAPCAN